forced co-habitation

[bella1968]

how does anyone cope? it's been 2 nights only and I just want him gone!! he's irritating, I asked him if he was going to do the garden whilst he was staying here and he said he didn't know why I hadn't done it as I'd done nothing around the house since june!!!! I'm fuming, apart from look after the children, do a full-time job I've spend as many hours as I can sorting through paperwork, a build up of bits and bobs which amounted to 3-4 black bin bags since then! and he comes in shoves what's in the playroom out and makes it his bedroom creating mess in the kitchen and lounge.

My solicitor has sent his a letter regarding him paying his way but he says he won't pay me a penny it has to be through a joint account.

What do I do?

I feel your pain, 3 months on and we are still living together - he says he hasn't got the money to move out but spends more on cars each month than most peoples mortgages! why does it have be through joint account? re money have you made tax credits claim as can still do that even though living in same house, I claim mine and all fine as separated. I am better off since we split so far.

I have applied for divorce but think the financials will be quite protracted! you need a coping strategy, mine is to go for walks once DC is asleep so stbxh cant hassle me which he does enjoy..

big hugs babes x

thanks chocolate I earn too much for tax/child tax credits I'm afraid but still can't afford to move out of the house. He's been living with his aunt and uncle since 12th June and has now come back because he thinks I'm mentally ill and can't look after the children.

I'm thinking I'll just carry on with my life with the children and pretend he's not there.

If this carries on I shall move his clothes out of my room and put a lock on the door. I stopped him from using the lounge last night but I'm not sure how long I can do this though. I've got paperwork to sort out in there but to be honest I don't feel like doing it if he's just going to go and sit in there.

I'm thinking that if he does go in there I'm just going to go and watch my kindle with no earphones in it. He hasn't spoken or agreed about moving back or negotiate anything other than state that this room is his bedroom and the downstairs bathroom is out of bounds to me and the kids although I am using the washing machine and dryer which is in the bathroom.

How do you organising the living arrangements?

hi chocolate can you tell me which dating online site you used please, I'm seriously considering it.