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Aunt's soon to be ex-h refusing to split loss on house

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utopian99 · 25/08/2014 09:09

Brief synopsis:

My dh's aunt had been married for at least the last 10 years to a guy who I've always thought was a bit 'off'. He worked as a care assistant in a care home and a few months ago got suspended and subsequently quit (before being fired I suspect.) He and she won't tell anyone why, but she decided to divorce him at this point - read into that what you will. She's lovely but has had bad luck picking partners in the past.

Anyway, as part of the divorce they are selling their house, but it's been valued at £10k less than the mortgage, and he's refusing to split the difference. (The value is only £50k so this is significant.) Part of the reason for the mortgage being so high is due to him remortgaging to spend money on cr*p over the years. We're all trying to persuade her to fight for the split, but she's now saying she'll just absorb it. She said she'd do it on a credit card but I doubt this is possible for £10k; she's not very money savvy and anyway it's not fair to her in the first place!

It now turns out he won't get a new job and is refusing to sign on, but is also trying to go after half her pension. Is this even legal? We would quite happily pay for a lawyer on her behalf but thought you might advise first?

Also, would it be sticking our oar in too much to offer this and/or pass on advice? She doesn't deserve it, plus I know I'm biased but her soon to be ex-h is a tool.

Thanks!

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Lonecatwithkitten · 25/08/2014 18:32

He can't have it both ways walk away from the debt and have half the pension.
She needs to see a solicitor as soon as possible.

Greengrow · 26/08/2014 11:56

He sounds like an utter waster. I tend to agree with her about not going to court over only £5k debt BUT half her pension could be huge. She needs an agreed financial order agreed with him and sealed by the court to have finality on divorce finances. She cannot leave it up in the air otherwise he will claim more later. Do you know how much her pension is worth - value of the fund or how much it would pay out per year before tax?

utopian99 · 29/08/2014 06:29

No idea unfortunately. Will point out the risk though and keep trying to encourage her to fight it..

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