My OH and I have recently separated, we have a 10 month old son. (My ex moved out 3 wks ago and is now living with his mother). He has decided that the best way forward is for us to share 50/50 custody, with LO spending a week at a time with each of us.
I returned to work following maternity leave on 1 July (slightly reduced hours to allow me to drop off and collect my son from nursery).
I asked my ex if I could still collect my son from nursery on the week he is in his custody, and take him back to my home and spend a few hours with him before my ex finishes work. We did this for 2 days, and my ex then informed me that the arrangement was not convenient for him and was also not good for our son. I strongly disagree with this, and all I am wanting to do is ensure daily contact with my young son.
I am just looking for some advice about what the best situation for my young son is. I want to prevent too much disruption for him, and realise he needs to have contact with his father, but surely a week long absence at such a young age is not the best solution?
Am I being unreasonable?
I am also unsure about the financial side of things. The flat I live in is owned by my ex, and he has asked me to pay him rent for the next 6 months (plus bills). He is not giving me any financial support, although he pays for the nursery costs. And he has arranged for the child benefit to be paid into a savings account for my son which he controls.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.