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Help needed for a friend with regards to moving away and help she would get?!?

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jenwa · 22/04/2014 13:18

I have a friend in another country. Her and her ex separated a couple of years ago. He was violently abusive to her (not to the kids I don't think). She is having a hard time and her family are in the uk. She would love to come back here but her ex does still see the DC although on his termsHmm he will have them every other weekend but then can go for months without seeing them. Although he was violent towards my friend he still gets to have the children without any form of supervision. Apparently just because you are violent towards your partner doesn't stop you being a great parent so he still has the right to have his children.
I don't know them well enough to understand the whole story. She is an old school friend who left to live away not long after leaving school but we have been back in touch via social sites.
She really wants to come home but her ex won't allow her to take the DC away. She wants to know what sort of help she would get if she did come over as she wants a job here but has to prove she would be financially better off by leaving.
I hope that makes sense and sorry if I've not explained it very well! Just trying to find out info for her and give her some advice.

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jenwa · 22/04/2014 13:31

Sorry I'm not sure if this is the best place for this post or not.

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SmashleyHop · 22/04/2014 13:38

This is going to depend solely on the country she's in. I'm assuming the children are dual nationality? Is the custody agreed in the courts or is this some personal arrangement they have made?

I brought my oldest son from the States to the UK. I had sole physical/legal custody so had the right to do so. Had my ex not wanted me to, it would have been up to him to take the case to court. However seeing as my ex hadn't seen my son in 7 years I doubt he would've made the effort. I was right.

jenwa · 22/04/2014 17:23

She's in Canada and yes duel nationality.
I'm guessing that it's their own set up as I'm sure if it was arranged by the court he would be unable to go so long without seeing them by his choice?
I can't imagine not ever wanting to see your own children but I suppose at least you managed to love away without more easily then.

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