I have been married to 'him' for 8 years this summer, it was a whirlwind romance, friends before, got together, pregnant after a year, immigrated to a foreign country, got married, our daughter was born. Gave up career was a stay at home mum. Looking back think I can say I have been unhappy for at least the last 6 years, moved back to uk 3 years ago, got a part time job which paid £400 a month but worked around my daughter. My husband earns about £50,000 a year, but encouraged me to work party time as he wanted me to be around for our daughter, but at the same time gets moody & snappy about not having any money. I have now gone back to work full time earning £17,000, not quite the salary I used to earn but I have chosen it to work around kids & him. He told me he hates me last night and complained that I had only cooked dinner 3 times in the last week. Can I point out I work full time on top of this my daughter does gymnastics twice a week plus brownies , I make sure she is fed.i am not his maid. I can't remember the last time he offered to cook, I do all his washing etc, down to scrubbing his sh*t marks off the toilet where he is just too lazy to do it. We are moving house in a few weeks (rented) , I have looked on benefits calculator and could probably just about afford it. But I know it will be me that has to leave, as he pays for the house, throws that in my face enough, I'm reaching the point where I could just grab my passport & go, I'm that unhappy I would consider leaving my daughter which breaks my heart. But he is making my life a misery , he won't leave , expects us to live together in a horrendous atmosphere which affects my daughter, I can leave but he won't let me take my daughter
I would kill myself if I had the balls, I hate him, he belittles me & I need to leave him