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Stuck abroad. Wanting to go home

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DiDov · 19/11/2013 13:41

Think I'm at the end of my tether.I get down every few weeks and then I just tell myself to suck it up. I'm living abroad with my husband, have been for the last seven years. We have 3 kids , 7, 5, and 3. They are happy and integrated . My husband is fantastic. I have nothing to complain about but I'm unhappy. I just want to go back home and be with my family. I've clamped this down for 5 years because I know my husband's life is here (because of his parents) and I think it's very important for my kids to be with their father but more and more I wonder how much more I can live with repressing my needs for what I think is the best for the kids. I'm think I'm stuck in this cycle of wanting to go home but thinking just stick it out.

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PeterParkerSays · 19/11/2013 13:55

What do you dislike about where you are?

What would be better about returning to the UK?

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DiDov · 19/11/2013 14:38

I guess the problem I have with here is that I don't really have friends. People I know, but not people I really want to talk to, people that I connect with. On top of that I don't really like the country I'm living in. I miss the landscape of Scotland; I miss the culture and the systems.
What I dislike about here is the weather and the life here is really at odds with who I am.I feel that I'm very northern european and here is very southern.
What would be better about returning to the Uk is that I would immediately be in an environment I love and understand; also I would be with my family.

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saragossa2010 · 20/11/2013 20:46

Could you split life? Eg take the children to Scotland for the whole summer holiday and every other main school holiday?

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heather1 · 20/11/2013 21:07

DiDov, you wouldn't be in Switzerland would you? I've been here for 2.5 years and I feel very much like you do. In fact I think I could have written your post myself. My husband loves his job, my children love their school etc.
But I don't feel like that.
Something I did find helpful, but didn't help me to change the way I felt, but gave me some different perspectives was counselling ( I did mine over Skype as it was cheaper and I could do it in English).
Feel free to Pm if it might help, even if just for a rant.