Getting husband to move out

[Notenjoyinglife]

Hi, just hoping for some advice / comments from someone who has already done this. I've been married for 8 years. Most not happy - originally due to H lack financial input (any at all) ad lack of input into child care. I originally stayed as I didn't want to separate and as a High earner I was able to work and do bulk of child care. Needless to say this wasn't enough for him and he moved on to worse activities including spending alot and making the house a miserable place to be by hoarding for all his hobbies and interests. Ultimately this as progressed to ruining holidays and friendships by his unpredictable and selfish behaviour.

I cant believe i have been so stupid putting up with this. I looked into escaping several times over the years but felt unable to leave as I was warned by solicitors that since he wont work most of the time he could claim that he was main child-carer and be awarded custody of the children. However, I now have realised that I have to get out and I believe that he would not be able to maintain caring for the children as he is simply not capable of looking after the children for any length of time.

So, after pressure from me he finally has a job again and I have now asked him to leave. Unsurprisingly, since he is sitting pretty making no financial contribution he will not leave. He is planning a holiday abroad next month for a couple of weeks - he will be taking unpaid time off work for this.

Solicitor originally said to me that he cannot be forced out. I am going back to see my solicitor with this in a couple of days but I am so desperately unhappy in the meantime.

Does anyone have any experience of this? Or just some anecdotes of how it is worth it in the end - to cheer me up??

It seems so unfair that he can just do whatever he wants and without any consequences. Will his continued lack of contribution be recognised? He is confidently expecting to stay on as long as possible and then take half of what I have left (all I have is some equity in the house - I don't even have money to take all the kids on holiday this summer).

Thanks for listening

I had a similar problem with my husband. He wanted to separate a couple of times but was unable to find a place . Since we both own the house I could not legally throw him out and he knew it. It was horrible . After my daughter went to bed I was confined to my bedroom to avoid him. It was torture . The second time he did this I started legal separation. My lawyer said that legally I couldn't kick him out but... if he decided to stay I should make living at home terrible for him. And I did. He went alway for the weekend. I hauled everything he owned down to the dungeon of a basement. His bed EVERYTHING. Then because he was so addicted to social media and his phone I changed the wifi password at home so he could no longer access the Internet . He came back for his weekend away and moved out 2 days later. Yes legally u can't kick him out but don't make living in the house enjoyable. There is now a clause in our separation agreement that says that I have the right to live in the house and he doesn't.