Divorcing one idiot, pregnant by another idiot

[VeremyJyle]

That sums it up really, I'm having a wobble today STBXH is looking after DDs, father of unborn baby is playing happy families with his ex and their daughter and I'm alone at home looking at divorce papers that need filling in (doing it myself, can't even hand over that bit of power to a solicitor) I feel so shoddy, can't even compute most details, my family know nothing, in fact the more I post the more ridiculous I feel, can't even pour myself a drink :(

Here's a for you

I'd offer but probably not a good idea for the unborn one.

Here's a instead. Sounds like you need it.

How are the practicalities? Is STBXH being reasonable re money etc - is father of new baby taking on his responsibilities ?

Definitely need a tea, having a right emotional wobble even about the baby now. STBXH is quite reasonable, not financially so much but with helping out when he can. Baby's dad has said he doesn't want a baby but has come to early scan and we're still 'together' it just feels like such a mess, don't know where to turn

Doesn't sound good - how many weeks are you? Is it too late if you want to TOP?

You say you're family doesn't know. What support do you have at the moment VeremyJyle?

I'm 6-7 weeks, got a scan tomorrow to hopefully see heartbeat and date the pregnancy, the last scan was just a sac so they guestimated 4-5 weeks. Took me a while to work out TOP, and no I couldn't, despite pressure from the father.
Sorry Soila I've confided in a good friend who lives local so she is supporting emotionally and practically - looking after DCs tomorrow perfect example.