Ex has asked for a weeknight stay with DC (5) and although i've always been anti - this (consitency, school etc) I am considering it properly and think when ex has a job (unemployed atm) where he can confirm that he'll actually see DC properly on that night (not just have his GF pick DC up for school and then be back at DC bedtime) then in principle, yes we can try it. I am still a bit uncomfortable but also i think it's reasonable to ask and I really support his relationship with DC.
eX doesn't 'get' why i don;t just say YES to everything immediately and shouts at me when he doesn't get his way. He has also been discussing the change to contact (though it's not agreed and before he brought it up with me) with DC, getting DCs hopes up and setting me up to let him down. He also sees no problem in this at all and gets angry when i try to explain.
What i want to know is..how to you get exs like this to listen? does anyone have views on the impact of midweek stays? and AIBU to consider these things so much and am i giving in to ex too easily? phew! thanks for feedback.