I'm coming up to 7 years of marriage. The early days were filled with fun adventures and we shared great times. We now have 2ds. The eldest is due to start school in September with the younger due to start next year. I am a SAHM, but have also worked from home and the combination has been difficult to manage. We moved from London to the commuter belt for a better way of life and it is better for the entire 'family'. I do know this, however, I am extremely lonely and isolated. I am not British and my family live on the other side of the world. DH is British, and his family is here, although, there is little support from them.
My biggest concernis is that he is unwilling to move to my country where I (we) have support, yet I have stuck by him for 7 years now. We had always agreed that we would live in my home country, but now that I am at my wits end he doesn't want to move. Admittingly, he has his own company and can see the finish line as to a sell off, but that is uncertain IMO, and could potentially take another 6 years. I can't take living in isolation with no friends or life and happiness anymore. Ideally, I would like to return home and he can continue doing what he is doing then follow us (if right at the time) at a later date. I doubt he will agree to this and I get the impression that he will make it difficult for me to leave with the kids.
DH has a short wick and has anger managment issues. We have been to a psychotherapist which was good and for a while we seemed to enjoy life together for a little bit more. The problem is that DH is not too keen to continue seeing him for his anger management and even if he did I don't think it would help that much as I have pretty much decided that I'm done with this sham of this relationship. This weekend he swung me around and threatened to trow me in the river and then at home he chased me and threw me in the bushes. I called the police this time and they took statements and it will go down on his record (but not charged). I don't love him and want to live again with my friends and family.
I'm going to call my solicitor today for advice, but thought that I'd put it up here for all the worldly MNers.