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Need advice on how to support freind who has lost custody if her DD

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sharklet · 14/06/2012 06:49

Long story and I don't know all the ins and outs of what and how it happened, but my friend lost custody of her DD 15 months ago over here in the states. They had a guardian / neutral person put on thier case who was essentially sweet talked by XH and in a nutshell recommended that he be given main custody as freind's hubby is in Armed Forces and gets posted overseas, they just got here from 2 yrs in Germany.

XH then essentially has done all he can to eradicate contact, court has upheld her complaints and he has been told to be compliant, but continues to scupper contact. So freind contested custody. Guardian has now realised she made a mistake in recommending XH got main custody and has been trying to correct what she sees as her mistake.

Long story short the whole custody battle has now been moved to new court in a new state as he lives in Tennessee and battle must take place where kids dwells. New court has disregarded all prior info and basically freind has just been told that he has won this round.

She cannot afford to carry on and to fight more - she is over $100,000 in the hole and is rightly devastated. I want to support her and offer some good advice - but apart frm tra and sympathy what can I say that could be of some help. She is at the point that she feels fighting it futher may just be dtrimental to her mental health and to her DD (who is 11)

HELP?

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FallenCaryatid · 14/06/2012 06:52

Where does her daughter want to live?
Army life is very hard, especially as a teenager.

sharklet · 14/06/2012 07:07

Airforce life... its a LOT easier, shorted deployments and less of them. Am airforce family too. - but that is beside the point - what I really need rather than advice for her on how to battle this is how to support her as a person, how to be a helpful frined rather than just give platitudes. If there is anyone who has been there and has any advice please help - she is falling apart - her hubby is in Afghanistan for another 4 months and I want to help her feel better if that is even possible.

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FallenCaryatid · 14/06/2012 07:10

Focus on helping her build a new relationship with her daughter and prioritising the child's happiness instead of the conflict between the adults. Is her child settled, with friends, does she know what her daughter's current interests are and can she connect with her in other ways.

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