Recently my brother's wife packed her things and left him with their son and daughter (small school-aged children). Although (like so many other things in life do) their life seemed like one most people would love to have;, being a young sexy couple with a spacious (humble) home, two amazing kids; who are surrounded by oodles of family and friends who fall over each other for time with them.
Some things apparently had changed for their Mom..After having mentioned on several occasions, that when the kids finally reach the age when they become pains in their sides-tween-teen years; they would ship them to her parents for longer periods of time, so she and my bro could have peace and time to themselves. She also used to say that, no matter what, the two of them would stay together. She is a domineering personality; one who speaks her mind and opinions openly w/o shame. During her introduction to the family, these traits were apparent right away. I recall while sharing and reminiscing over some childhood photos of both of the youngest men in the family with her(one was her husband); I couldn't help but notice she insisted, she could tell the difference between the two boys better than I-Although she was aware that I was there with them both then and now. Being considerably older than the two youngest in the family, I remember clearly who and when was! That experience with her left an impression on me, one that allowed me to understand that, she would be the one to determine how things would be in my brother's life from then on. It was then, when I decided that I would keep my involvement close enough, but yet with enough distance, to avoid any possible down falls between she and I; In order to avoid taking a chance of losing my relationship with my brother.
Less than 10 years into their marriage;upon a visit, I noticed the atmosphere within their home had changed and instinctively knew it was a permanent one. Shell shocked and awestruck, I learned that her plan was to relocate alone, to a distant location and begin a new life. Since my brother has undertaken the single parent life and seems to have adjusted well.
Soon the time will arrive to sign the divorce agreement; it's uncertain how that will transpire. This period of time, the one required by the state, before the agreement can lawfully be signed, has been gradually improving. Both sides of the kid's family have felt challenged about either discussing or asking either child about their circumstance, we're all learning to be at ease with their changes. Now, it is just a period of time to see what the final outcome will be concerning these little ones custody,I?m saying my prayers
-Velvet glove