My partner has two children aged 4 and 5. His wife, by her own admission, cheated more times than she could remember. He has always had doubts that one/both children are his but obviously loves them very much and didn't ever want to query it in case he was stopped from seeing them. He and his wife seperated when the children were just under 1.5 and 2.5 years old. She has stopped contact regularly and has often allowed more contact with the younger child than the older child. She treats the children very differently, giving the older child preferential treatment by far, adding to my partners concern that they may not be his.
At the moment, she has stopped contact again and finally he is going through solicitors to sort out a regular pattern of contact. However, she has threatened that she can 'turn his world upside down' etc on regular occasions. Obviously, with his worries about the paternity of the child/ren he thinks this could be what she is talking about. Should he get a paternity test done so that she cannot spring any negative news on him later on? If it were found that one/both children were not biologically his, would he have a right to any contact with them? I know he worries a lot that one/both might not be his but doesn't want to face up to what that might mean. However, I also feel it is unfair on the child/ren if they later have him removed from their life if he isn't their father and that the longer it goes on the harder it would also be on him and also our children. On the other hand, if the test comes back that he is the father to both he can relax and enjoy them and ignore her threats. Does anyone have any advice?