Relief in paradise, can't wait to come home!

[melonsmaygotobed]

I have posted on 'relationships' called Hell in paradise, and now have finally made the move to 'separated' It's 11.30 here in the evening (oz) and I can't wait to come home! No more checking phones, wondering who he's with, nodding at his lies.

A life with just worrying about the children, without the constant angst of suspicion, will be a damn sight better despite the many hurdles ahead.

Onwards, upwards. The future is less scary than I thought it might be.

But then I have had few

But I still feel liberated.

(deep breath)

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So when do you call lawyers in? Is it only if you can't agree on finances / where the children live?

Hello Melons,

I'm no legal person, but I have heard on a radio programme that divorce settlements, regarding children and wives, are more considered more generous in the uk - a lawyer advised jumping on a plane back to the uk, with marriage certificate (and other relevant documents) to start proceedings in Britain.

Also I've been lurking on DEE34's threads, and Downunderdolly has posted about all the problems she's been having in Australia - basically she is not allowed to come back to live in the UK with her child, where her family support is. She is in financial straits, and she has an arse for an ex-partner who is making her stay in Australia.

I would plan your actions carefully and keep your cards close to your chest. Also, if you return to the uk, move back into your home and get your children into local schooling etc, it makes your position stronger.

Best of luck

Dee's thread

Making tge decision is often tge hardest bit I think.

Melons I have lurked and am
Glad that you have made a decision that will give you and your dc a chance of a happy secure future.

On court jurisdiction, I would post in legal but assuming you and dh have ties
Here (married here, both uk citizens and contract was only temporary ) facts may not be same as dee( can't link to thread).

Thanks gig and cathy, I feel nervous but a lot more relaxed about life in general. We have no ties here so we plan to return to the uk and sort out house, finances etc when we get back. Thank goodness it's less complicated than it could be!
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