I split with my ex a year ago its been quite volatile but we have tried to keep things civil (failing miserably sometimes) for the sake of our son aged nearly 3. However things have taken a really bad turn (there are reasons but too long to go into) I am seeing a solicitor shortly because I want official joint custody of our son. I already have him 50% or more of the week but it's the regular threat of withdrawing whenever she hits an obstacle or things dont go her way that has got too much. I provide everything from clothes to nursery costs as well as paying weekly maintenance yet out of spite/anger she has reported me to the CSA why I dont know. My ex has a volatile and totally unpredicable nature (her heavy pot habit doesn't help) she is impossible to reason with so I get frsutrated and angry and we go around in circles. I am worried for my son because of her lifestyle, and he is picking up on atmosphere and her unpredictable mood swings. She is also in a new relationship with a much younger man yet denies it when I ask. She is aggressive to my family who have been nothing but supportive in all the time we were together,and since we split. I just need some stability for my son and myself. What will happen, will it automatically be a court hearing? I feel totally out of my depth.