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Still In Love witih X

9 replies

wendieann · 13/03/2012 17:07

Sad... Pathetic.. Yep. That's me. I married my man, and we had 2 children. I went throught what I thought was baby blues. I later found out I have bi-polar. I was miserable, and I DID push my X away. Why would he want to be near me? All I did was cry, and fight over every little thing. Nothing he did was right....

Was he perfect? No. During one of my "good" days, I figured I deserved better and kicked him out. He took our new motorhome, and ended up with his married co-worker. 2 yrs later they split. THEN, I tried to get back with him. Little did I know, his 1st wife was too!!! I lost. He went back with her. 2 yrs later, they didn't last. Now, he ruined a neighbours relationship, and is with her! roll eyes

Back to me.

Everytime I see him, my heart still melts. I long to hug him and turn back time, but I KNOW it wouldn't work. I miss him. I still love him. I find it hard to talk to him, and look at him when we exchange the children.

Yes, a yr after he left, I ran into a male of ours...and this man and I started a relationship. 5 yrs later, I am still with him. I don't love him. He knows this. He also know, how I tried to get back with my X, and he understood.

I just wish I could let go of my X.... so I can love this man I am with, the way he deserves.....

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MyLittleMiracle · 13/03/2012 21:17

I am still i suppose to some degree still in love with my ad, although he is no lomnger mine and hasnt been for about i suppose 9 years now, i miss him and long for him and wish i could touch him, feel him cuddling me, feel his lips, but it wont happen ever.

I am alone now, i left my exH not because i didnt love him, i did more than ad, but he was abusive and manipulative etc, and i couldnt take any more. I no longer love my ex Husband who i was with for 7 years, but Ad, i know i can never let go, not completely, he still is in my mind and in my heart, i still dream of him sometimes, maybe cos i am now alone, or maybe cos we were meant to be, he really was the one that got away, and i miss him and have no idea how i would get him back now

wendieann · 14/03/2012 14:51

Yes, MyLittleMiracle...I can relate. It sure isn't easy. I also dream of my Xh. Even though he immediate moved in with someone. I still blame myself. I often wonder if I would of been on meds, and stabled my irractic behavior, emotions, maybe we could of made things work.

Sure is hard. I see my Xh every other weekend and the song from Reba always brings me to tears. I wonder if/when i will ever be able to get over him... not continue to longingly want/love him...

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/03/2012 14:56

I will always love ad, i know this now. He will always be "special" and how i want him now. He was more than just a lover, he was a best friend and a soul mate, he knew me like no one else ever has, and we connected. The years pass, but the memories dont fade. I miss him.

wendieann · 14/03/2012 20:20

Nope, the memories don't fade...

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/03/2012 20:47

I wish i could make them, i wish i could stop keep searching for him, keep looking around, wondering what he would look like now etc!

wendieann · 15/03/2012 20:27

MyLittle, I see my X. As he ages, and his once dark hair has turned salt/pepper, with balding starting more and more... He still melts my hard. Sometimes, seeing them doesn't make things better! Trust me....

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MyLittleMiracle · 15/03/2012 20:56

Probably wouldnt, just want to know he is okay. And see him, and hug him, just once more and tell him that i always loved him!

wendieann · 16/03/2012 02:05

Yes...I have always, and still do want to hug him and tell him how much I love him....forgiven him for our past problems, and still find him sexy! LOLOL

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MyLittleMiracle · 16/03/2012 09:20

I will always find ad sexy, he always was. I still have our junior school pictures and even then he was fit as anything. I should never have lost contact with him. :( BUT maybe i will find him again, maybe i never will. Always and forever, in my heart. I worry about where he might be now and what he might be up to. Has he been stabbed or anything? He used to hang with the tough boys, older than him, and they treated me and my best mate like we were their little sisters, i miss that too. They were alwasy there to protect me, god knows what they would do if they knew how my now exhusband had treated me, but i do know the result wouldnt have been pretty.

Maybe i am not just grieving for ad, maybe its all of it i miss. My status as his girlfriend

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