How did you decide where to live when you divorced?

[chickenwings]

I have just asked my husband for a divorce because he has a drinking problem. I am trying to work out where to live so I can sort out what financial settlement I need. With regards to contact, I will ensure that the kids continue to see their father regularly.

At the moment I am a SAHM to 3 kids and I live down a country lane, about half a mile from the nearest village. I currently live close to all my h's family (who think I am very unreasonable asking for a divorce) and about a 2 hour drive away from my family.

Do I move to be closer to my family? Stay nearby in order to keep the three kids in their current schools (although they are likely to have to change anyway as we could never properly afford the private school fees)? Do I move to a city to make it easier for me to find a job (which will be essential)?

I know I sound a bit hopeless but I don't know what to prioritise. We have only lived in the current place for just over 2 years so I haven't properly put down roots here and don't have much of a support network.

If you read through your post again op, I think you have your answer love.
No support network, his family and their opinions right near you, none of your own family near by. kids will need to change schools anyway. and you want to be somewhere thats easy to get a job, and get to it everyday.
My answer is move hunni. It will be best for you. Your husband will come and see them still. and it will both give you the space you need to move on and get on with your lives. the space may make him think about sorting out his problem with drink too.
If your still not convinced write a pros n cons list on moving. xxx

mjawch is right, but take legal advice before you tell your husband or make any plans, you may find that if you start the divorce process living where you are (and your dh and his family are up in arms about it) that he could argue that you have to stay in the vicinity in order to maintain contact with his children

disclaimer - I am no expert but I have a very reluctant and difficult soon to be ex-h

Also child maintence can deduct the cost of him coming to see the kids from your allowance. So if it costs him £50 in petrol or in buses w/e they can take that from your entitlement. xx