Is this taking too long?

[MyLittleMiracle]

Please dont out me if you know who i am as i have made a permanent name change.

It has now been almost 6 weeks since i went to my solicitor, after receiving a letter from exh's solicitor in regards to contact and a divorce.

I have now heard nothing and nor has my solicitor last time i spoke with them. They assured me as soon as they do they will notify me. What do i do now? If he hasnt lodged a petition for divorce anywhere, can i still just divorce him, cos the letter only said that basically he wanted a divorce and they would be addressing the question of one..... then onto contact issues.

Should it take 6 weeks for one letter to get to another solicitor, be dealt with and still not be back?> He doesnt work so has no excuse about couldnt fit a solicitors appointment in etc.

Thank you. My solicitor was going to draft it for me today and send it to me for signing and checking, and then off to the court and him! Cannot WAIT!

I feel good cos mediation was the last thing he was expecting and now he is forced to come miles out of his way or look stupid in court.

i mean a judge isnt going to look kindly on well i asked for mediation but when she said yes, i decided not to....hardly a good look in court, from someone desperate and willing to do anything to see their child.

Exactly!!! You've come a million miles in a week. You've been a step ahead of him the whole time and u didn't realise it. just keep strong as i remember the very dark days of actually having to sight incidents for my grounds! Made it hard to see in black and White, but you'll get there, because each day you get just a little bit stronger x

I am putting down domestic abuse, have proof from HV, and apparently there were suspicions etc, so really good news. I cannot wait. Seeing it in black and white will be hard, but necesary, and i feel stronger by the day. Thank you for your support. x

My pleasure, unless you've been through it, it's very hard to understand the whole complexity.

In fact our whole chat mas made me decide to go back to my solicitor. Having been diorced 7 years. Last night I texted him to say finding things hard at the mo and suggested he could do more. To which he answered, "stop attention seeking, I am switching my phone off, do not contact me unless emergency, this is not an emergency"!

Hmmmm, what a fabulous dad he is! Sometimes it feels like up hill struggle, but the time has come to remember why i diorced him originally and even if it gets me nowhere, I'll feel better i've tried.

I hope the housing gets sorted soon. Phone them as often as possible as they'll get bored of hearing from you.

Oh also just quick thought, write a letter to your local mp. I know it sounds long winded but it really worked for me at different times. His influence got me school places, tax credit issues sorted and he did try to tackle csa. Explain the hardships even the intrucive questioning. You might find it does help!