Hi there, I've changed my name for various reasons but have been a mumsnetter for years - I just haven't been on for a while. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.....
My husband left me 8 years ago for a younger model, when my children were very young.
After a long drawn out divorce our financial settlement ruled that he pay me a certain amount for the children plus their school fees.
I have since remarried, so my money stopped but obviously I still get maintenance for the children (which incidentally is still the exact same amount as it was 8 years ago)
He has just informed me that he has no money....his business has really struggled through the recession and he was going to see the school bursar about maybe deferring fees.
He has asked me to go for a coffee with him-I suspect he's going to ask me to start either paying for or contributing to, the school fees.
I feel so uneasy about this. Morally I feel I should, but he walked out on us and the court ruled he pays.
The last thing I want is for the children to have to leave their school, but for us to contribute would mean quite a massive lifestyle change. I don't earn anything like enough so it would be my husband who pays really.
Sorry if that's a bit of a rant but I'm flummoxed, I really am.
TIA.