Hi all
Just in the process of splitting and we're disagreeing over custody of our 2yr old. Ex works offshore for 3 wks at a time and then home for 3wks (been doing this for years now). He wants custody when he's home which would mean I won't see my LO for 3wks at a time. I understand how important it is for both my ex and LO to have a good relationship, but I believe that when parents split LO needs a primary carer who takes care of them day to day. I've suggested maybe 4 days on/off whilst he's home which would mean he has custody for an average of 2 days a week overall, about the same as most separated dads. Maybe I'm being selfish but I've hardly spent any time away from my LO and I can't imagine not seeing her for half the year, I take care of everything when ex is away and nearly everythink when he's back. I've asked how he'll manage having LO for 3 solid wks at a time when he likes playing golf a few times a week, going out with his mates etc, and not drinking more than a couple drinks at a time, but I just get told he'll get babysitters or family to look after LO. He also claims I only want LO for longer to get more maintenance!
I really want us to come to a sensible solution, but I don't know where I stand legally. If I put my foot down and force a court decision would they go with split custody as he works 3 weeks on/off (the worst possible outcome), or would they split the time he is actually back at home?
Sorry for the long post, nothings ever easy to explain!