Broken hearted and dont know what to do.. what did you do re cheating husband?

[LeeWT]

I have a 4 year old and a 6 month old baby.

My husband was a kind, caring, wonderful man and in the past 6 months (never could deal with stress but especially not since arrival of ds) has spiralled out of control.

He has:
-been smoking large amounts of cannibis
-binging the odd time on alcohol
-compulsively eating and exercising
-lying
-had an affair with my "friend" who worse still is my line manager from work
-has been taking antidepressants on and off since Feb but never long enough for them to take effect.

I found out about all of this 3 weeks ago and my whole life has fallen apart. I dont have family nearby and when I think about it for longer than 10 minutes i feel like i cant breathe. I love/d this man with all my heart and I cannot believe he has done this or was capable of this.

He is a total mess right now veering from being nasty to remorseful and incapable of maintaining a mood for long. He is seeing the GP, a counsellor and taking anti-d's now but I just dont know how to cope or what to do.

Has anyone experienced anything like this?

All I can do is send huggs. Poor you....hope it works out xx

Bumping for you LeeWT - you'll probably get more replies if you post in Relationships. I'm so sorry to hear what's going on. Sounds like some kind of breakdown on your H's side, but no excuse for putting you through this hell.

First thing you need to do is get yourself some support - do you have close friends or family you can confide in, or who at least can give you some practical help with the kids while you deal with all this?

Really sorry to hear about your situation. Is your 4 year old at school or do you have work commitments? If not, could you and kids go and stay with family for a while to come to terms with what is happening. I know how hard it is to deal with the day to day needs of your children when your world is falling apart.

Only you can decide what to do now. It may help to have some space from the situation if possible. Get as much support as you can.