Practicalities of separation

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I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd DC and after a week off work and lots of rows with DP, I am starting to think our relationship is over. We both have issues that affect things - I have problems relaxing and enjoying sex, DP has anger issues. Yesterday I actually shouted back properly for one of the first times - normally I manage to stay calm and let DP do all the shouting, door slamming, house-wrecking. Unfortunately, it upset DD (2yo) which was the one thing I wanted to avoid where possible.
While I can accept that we're not making each other happy (apparently DP would rather be dead than be with me as I'm a frigid bitch), I don't know where to begin on the practical side of things.
I work full time with a 2 hour commute either side (leave home 06.30, return 20.00) and DP looks after DD during the day. Parents live 600 miles away, sisters 100+ miles away. DP wants to live closer to her family so would move 100 miles away if we were to split up. After mortgage, bills and travel, I currently have about £500 spare and I am guessing this will not be anywhere near enough to cover childcare 13 hours a day!
If the worst was to happen and we were to split up, what on earth can I do? Essentially it only needs to be for 4 months until I start maternity leave at the end of June, but that feels like a long time at the moment. I intend to give up working so far from home after DC2 arrives so will need to find something locally that will pay enough to cover childcare for 2 DC I guess. I don't really understand much about benefits so am pretty clueless about if there's any help available out there for my situation.
I've not spoken to anyone about this, so this is the only place I can go for help.

I'm a bit confused because you say you are pregnant but your partner wants to live closer to her family? Rather than giving up perhaps counseling would help with both the sex and anger issues.

If you do decide to split I wouldn't assume that that your child will be living with you. Generally it is accepted that a child's security and established bonds shouldn't be disrupted. When there is a history of both parents working full time and sharing care there is a good argument for this to continue after family breakdown with the child living 50:50 with each parent. Alternatively if one parent works and the other doesn't and looks after the child for the majority of the time before separation continuing this arrangement post separation is likely to be deemed to be in the best interests of the child.

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I think I saw a thread from you last week - are you a lesbian couple? If so, and if you have a Civil Partnership then you will have the same rights and responsibilities as if you were married. If no Civil Partnership, then you will only be entitled to child maintenance (in fact, not even sure whether you'd get that, come to think of it)..