Anyone else's husband lost it when the Divorce Petition was Served?

[gingercrls]

Mine went totally ape!! Wanted to contest the Divorce....just because he didn't like what was said in Particulars of the Divorce Petition (managed to talk him out of it). My mom was telling me about someone she knows whose husband did the same thing.

Anyone else have this experience?

Hi gingercrls, i'm divorcing my husband at the minute but he hasn't seen what i have put in mine, i told him some as i'm divorcing him on the grounds of behaviour. he's not that happy either, but i told him i'm only telling the truth.

Happens a lot of the time. Something about seeing it in print in an official document makes it seem worse for some reason. Remember as well that unreasonable behaviour is a subjective test. Chances are he'll be looking at the same issues from a different angle.

Yep.. he totally refused the particulars, yet refused to divorce me!

I am going for cheapie internet divorce though, so am happy to wait till next year now, as I can divorce on 2 years seperated rather than unreasonable behaivour.

Yep, he went totally apeshit and pulled me along the upstairs landing by my hair, confirming how right I was to be divorcing the bastard. I could have divorced him for both adultery and unreasonable behaviour, so I gave him the choice as to which one made him sound the least shitty. He then dragged it out further by saying he didn't want to be divorced in our town because it would be in the divorce notices in the local paper. Got rid of him eventually, though. This too will pass, Ginger.

my sister in law went ape when my brother divorced her he not only stated her adultery but named the guy and had him stung for costs
he refused to change it and he got custody of the kids. dont forget a lot of very nasty women out there as well

im worried now im expecting my parther nto react as badly :9 I just want a divorce why does it have to be so hard

Mine too, he didn't want my allegations against his name. I kept it to basic facts. He is a narcissist though. He will contest every step I know it. He hasn't responded to the petition yet and is asking for more time. He has no regard for my feelings at all, which is why I want to be free of him. His true colours are showing now I am trying to take some control. He is demanding we separate for 2 years then divorce, and as he won't move out I'll have to. I can't live like this anymore so I am considering it. He wants the kids, the house, the dogs, everything.

My ex and I agreed that we were going to divorce and he would deal with it (and then I would deal with the house sale).

Months passed and nothing then I found out he was moving in with his new gf so I petitioned and he went crazy, emailing me accusatory emails with thinly veiled threats (had to call the police in the end). He then refused to agree until he had spoken to a solicitor.

It was strange as he clearly didn’t want to stay married to me so why not just sign and get it over with!

Luckily he saw sense and signed the acknowledgement, but not without adding some stupid comments about how I was as much to blame as he was.

With hindsight it was all about control, all the time we were married and I was stuck in the house paying for our mortgage he knew where I was and that I couldn’t afford to do anything. As soon as I petitioned I was the one with control and he didn’t like it.