When you say perfectly in range what exactly are they? In pregnancy the aim for people with diabetes is really tight control, more so than any other time in your diabetes management. Ideally you want your fasting level to be below 5.3. Is it that consistently? If not, then they are absolutely correct to be advising increasing your lantus. Your long acting insulin is like the foundations of a house, if they are not built properly first, then adding on walls (your fast acting) won’t give a solid structure (or in this case good control).
Sudden crashing hypos can be a big thing in pregnant women with diabetes on insulin, so this is possibly part of why they are aiming to get really tight background control before edging up the fast acting. If you start getting big hypos it can lead to big swings back intohigh numbers, which can end up as a bit of a vicious circle of ups and downs, which is what you definitely want to avoid.
Asking us randoms on here isn’t going to help you. You are in a very specific situation, and the DSN and endocrinologist who are looking after you do this regularly, and have spent years getting qualified, getting clinical experience, attending courses and conferences to build on their knowledge. They are the ones who know all your diabetes history.
Please can you also tell them everything. Tell them you haven’t increased, so they know what they are working with. Their aim is to keep you and baby as safe as possible, and they can only do that if they know what’s actually happening. Good luck with everything op. I hope you get into a good plan for your pregnancy soon.