Type 2 dh eating too much sugar.

[TheVolturi]

Dh has been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes since 2009. Takes metformin. Over the years the Dr's have wanted to increase this but he's reluctant, but he now takes Sitagliptin as well.
The problem is, he eats crap. He's mid fifties and I'm getting worried for his health. He hates veg, and salad. So eats mostly junk tbh. He snacks on biscuits, sweets, chocolate, cakes. Every meal he wants white bread with it. On his days off he always wants a takeaway, like kfc, kebab, pizza. I can't seem to change his eating habits because he just doesn't enjoy healthier food or feel satisfied by it. I will make healthy food in a healthy portion and he will eat it, but then will spoil it by eating utter rubbish after. If I don't buy any of the stuff he likes he's grumpy and will eat it at work anyway.
He gets very itchy skin mostly on legs and groin and I'm convinced it's to do with his blood sugars.
What happens if you have type 2 and take medication but carry on eating rubbish?

If you continue eating junk it will have an effect on his kidneys, eyes etc he needs to change his diet try doing it slowly and he needs to exercise even if it's just a half an hour walk it will make such a difference.

He needs to face up to his own health issues . He’s facing all the horrible consequences of slowly poisoning himself to death. I know it sounds cold, but he is an addict and the only person that can change his behaviour is him.
Possibly sit down with him and have a conversation about how his behaviour affects you.

Has he got a blood sugar monitor? Maybe having some kind of tangible evidence of the damage he’s doing might work?

www.diabetes.org.uk/guide-to-diabetes/complications

He’s an adult. I presume he understands the possible consequences of the way he is behaving.
You cannot Make him look after himself. He has to want to be bothered or he will continue to self sabotage.
It must be incredibly frustrating and worrying but at the end of the day unless he does it for himself it’s never going to stick.

But when he needs help, I'll, blond, amputation, it will be OP he's relying on

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But when he needs help, I'll, blond, amputation, it will be OP he's relying on

That’s probably true but it doesn’t alter the fact that he can’t arsed to make the changes needed. Until he can be arsed all the op ends up being is the nagging, boring wife.

You can 'get away' with poor choices as a diabetic for several years, but they will catch up with you.
IME it will probably take a sudden cardiovascular event, a stroke or heart attack of which he is at significantly increased risk by virtue of diabetes alone, before anything changes.
Has his hbalc and cholesterol and BP been checked recently?

My DH is a bit like this, he doesn’t eat too badly but has huge portions and snacks in the evenings. He started on Metformin they increased the dose then added dapaglifozin, then just after Christmas they started him on another one which is a weekly injection called dulaglutide.

I really worry about how much he has to take as he has high blood pressure too and is on two medications for that.

I do understand that the shifts he works makes it hard to eat regularly and properly and if he’s only got a couple of days off he’s too tired to do any exercise, but he’s just had two weeks off and not even gone for a walk, I try and get him too but don’t want to force him. He does know something needs to change but I think he’s got to do it himself. I don’t mean I won’t support him, just that he’s got to be ready.

My MIL is like this. Type 2 diabetic, in her 70s and seeing the consequences of her neglecting her health for too long. Massively swollen and numb feet, probably heading for some kind of amputation before very long. Refuses to check her blood sugar, eats loads of sugar and processed food, tries to be 'good' for the 2 weeks before she sees the diabetic nurse. It's maddening. DP and I have simply given up, and just don't discuss her health with her any more - it's a total waste of time. I hear you OP, it's beyond frustrating, but honestly, nothing can be done

Sounds like he needs last big shock can his nurse or GP talk to him? Or have you been there done that? My mum
Is like this with my dad only so much you can do and provide healthy meals
At home and for own sanity at some point have to not say anything. You end up being labelled a nag and your get fed up having to be the bad guy.

You do of course have every right decide if they need significant care in future if you are willing to provide that. Blindness, amputation etc will not just affect him

@TheVolturi I've got one similar to you. To a degree he does eat healthily but eat sweets, chocolate, lollipops, biscuits but no alcohol. He buys Haribo tangfastics, picks the cherry ones out for me and eats the rest himself.

Recently in the last 2 werks he's had a few memory/thought lapses. Petrol in a diesel car, convinced Monday was Sunday, lost some ham after making a sandwich. He said he looked everywhere and blamed the cat until I found the ham in the cutlery drawer next where he made the sandwich.

After telling my sister about these lapses I said I would at some point ask him when he last tested his blood sugars. My niece aged 12 who always comes our with random things took it out of my hands and said "Uncle when was the last time you tested your blood sugars?" Her friend is type 1 diabetic so she knows these things. He said he'd tested last week and they were 11 which is quite high.

I can't tell him anything as he will go in a right strop. Probably another problem caused by high blood sugars.