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I’m struggling to cope with my brother

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whyisnothingsimple · 22/10/2025 20:02

My brother and I were never close - in fact he has been very nasty at times. Several years ago, he developed vascular dementia and since then I have had to deal with affairs. It has been very difficult as he lived a 2 hour drive from me and his house was derelict - managed to sell it but sorting out his financial affairs has taken a lot of my time. I’ve moved him to a care home about 20 minutes away from me and see him once a week - he’s mainly asleep. Today I visited and was told he had punched a carer - feel absolutely terrible about it - every week I have to do something for him - I really just want to walk away from him - I left the home in tears but the manager was very kind - I don’t want to do this anymore - he wouldn’t have lifted a finger if the roles were reversed - hate the fact I feel guilty for feeling this way - needed to rant!

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Muchtoomuchtodo · 22/10/2025 20:14

You don’t have to keep doing anything for him.

Unconvinced8768 · 22/10/2025 20:15

You sound so kind and you have done right by him. He’s safe and looked after so why don’t you take a step back for a while?

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