My brother and I were never close - in fact he has been very nasty at times. Several years ago, he developed vascular dementia and since then I have had to deal with affairs. It has been very difficult as he lived a 2 hour drive from me and his house was derelict - managed to sell it but sorting out his financial affairs has taken a lot of my time. I’ve moved him to a care home about 20 minutes away from me and see him once a week - he’s mainly asleep. Today I visited and was told he had punched a carer - feel absolutely terrible about it - every week I have to do something for him - I really just want to walk away from him - I left the home in tears but the manager was very kind - I don’t want to do this anymore - he wouldn’t have lifted a finger if the roles were reversed - hate the fact I feel guilty for feeling this way - needed to rant!