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Concerned about family member - should I mention to her DH?

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rosemarble · 10/03/2025 09:24

I have been increasingly concerned about the brain function of a family member.
She is over 80.
Her emails to me read a bit like someone who speaks English as a second language (word order, incorrect tenses, spelling mistakes).
It's especially hard as she speaks many languages and has had a long career as a translator. Language is her world.

Would you mention your concerns to her husband, or do you think he's more than likely to be very aware?

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Freddiefan · 10/03/2025 09:30

I think I would broach it very gently and be prepared to quickly back off. He may be relieved to be able to discuss it.

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 10/03/2025 09:33

Yes definately mention it.

He'll probably be aware already - and in denial.

rosemarble · 10/03/2025 11:56

Thank you. I msg'ed her DH and I'm calling him this afternoon.

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rosemarble · 10/03/2025 13:56

I had a good chat with her DH, and I'm glad I did. He has noticed and has tried to encourage her to see her GP, to no avail. He wasn't sure how 'bad' things are as he's with her all the time, but having me tell him I've noticed too has helped him realise it isn't just him, and it's given him the motivation to try and get her to the GP somehow.
She is a very strong willed woman.

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