Hoping u can help with some advice. My dad has dementia and lives at home with my mum. I live very far from them both but in the UK.
Dad has limited verbal communication and very impaired short term memory. He knows he is at home, recognises me and mum. He is placid - generally walks up and down to the loo, watches TV and sleeps on and off. He couldn't be left alone overnight or for long periods during the day without a responsible adult being there.
Mum is an ex-nurse and happy to leave him for short periods in the middle of the day e.g. food shopping/meeting a friend with the ring camera on to watch him and/or asking his brothers or sisters to pop in/stay.
Mum's amazing but not a 'planner' and often refuses to discuss things with me. She often doesn't let me know about things until there is a crisis. I'm worrying about what to do if she ends up in hospital at short notice (she's in her 70s). It's a hypothetical but I like to be prepared as I have anxiety. Plus in those situations, other family members step back and it's just me to sort it.
Basically, I'd need care for dad fast and how do I get it asap, like within hours. What if it's out of office hours? I have POA for him. Sorry if this is a stupid question and one I should be able to work out for myself- just dreading being in an utter panic phoning nursing homes or social care numbers and being told phone lines are closed or they can't help me for whatever reason. Where do I start? Xx