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What happens in this situation?

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Tweedledonkey · 31/10/2024 11:00

Hi is there anyone who has experience of this situation, and could you tell me what happens? I’m new to all this and could do with a step by step guide.

I’m in England and have two parents living together, who are married. I have POA for both but this is not currently activated. I’m an only child, there are no other family or friends around. I work (often away) and have a young family myself.

One Parent With Dementia (PWD). One Parent Carer (PC). They have shared bank account and own a small property in joint names. Not much in savings. PWD could not realistically live independently and PC is currently with them 24/7. PWD and PC are not particularly receptive to the idea of outside care and certainly are not receptive the idea of care homes at all. If the PC sadly passes away, what happens?

Financially, how do things work, I assume the PWD just continues using the shared bank account and I activate the LPOA, and the house is already in joint names so nothing happens there.

in terms of care of PWD, what happens? Do I contact social services? Or GP?

Anyone who has been through this, I’d love to hear how things panned out so I know what to do.

Thank you.

OP posts:
Tweedledonkey · 08/11/2024 10:36

Wow, thanks Granpepper, that is useful!

OP posts:
NoBinturongsHereMate · 08/11/2024 11:32

A resident partner is an aspect SS will probably push as a reason to avoid stepping in, but there are usually strong arguments you can use to push back. If the partner is a similar age it's much easier to argue detriment to own health, lack of ability to do physical care etc.

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