Alzheimer's

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My best friend's mum just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's,,Her mum doesn't get on with her daughter that's my friend,,The problem is that her sister is constantly moaning about having too look after her and listening to hear on the phone,, when she at her own home..The mum thinks her house is going to burn down and when I spoke to her ,my question was what's the worse thing her attitude stinks and she says she's got constipation very bad, my friend and i think she's acting a lot looking for sympathy. Anyone else having issues with someone they know or a family member with Alzheimer's,,what advice would you give to either-daughter or mother'....do you thing she acting a lot worse than what she is suffering????

No, I don’t think she is acting, she sounds frightened and I think you or your friend need to call a dementia helpline to get some advice. She has a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s so if no one in the family is willing to support her, adult social care need to be involved in her care planning urgently - there will be a duty social worker on call over the weekend.

Many thanks for your help and information,, it's a difficult situation and contacting a social care support services is a very good plan,,,will let you know on how it all plans out,,,

Good luck, my own DP had a different type of dementia initially misdiagnosed as Alzheimer’s and then misdiagnosed as vascular dementia. Olfactory hallucinations such as smelling burning can be part of dementia so it’s important that your friend and her sister get some information from the Alzheimer’s Association or another dementia helpline. My own DP was very difficult to deal with and had to go into a care home.

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/hallucinations

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/dementia/care-and-support/help-and-support/#:~:text=It%20runs%20a%20free%20national%20helpline%20on%200800%20055%206112.

My mum has vascular dementia and altziemers. Is becoming more and more aggressive. I have 2 siblings who aren’t expected to help. I can’t continue to do this on my own. My father is in denial and won’t allow outside help.

Thanks that was very informative especially about the smelling of burning,,will pass this information onto her sister,,

Might you have a address or phone number or online for me to share with her sister,? many thanks

Thank you ,I didn't see your message until,I messaged the last reply, asking for this information,,I will forward this to on..will keep you all up dated on her progress

My advice would be leave your dad with her for 5 days...See how long he last before he on the phone to you,,,my friends advice is ignore your dad and let him be.,Phone adult social care,or anyone who can posible help,,explain that you can,t continue with the issues regarding your mums condition...if a nurse can come around tell dad that its the doctor who as sent a nurse around just to check on your mum..Dad is probably scared which is very understandable please keep us informed,,,