Does anyone have experience of successfully applying for continuing healthcare funding? My Dad has had mixed Dementia since 2015 and has been cared for at home, by my Mum, with me supporting both of them quite heavily. My Dad is 91 and my Mum is 89. Since last year he has been expected to die within six months and it seemed that we could continue to care for him at home, with the help of daily carers, paid for by us, for personal care. However, since Christmas he has rapidly declined and is at the point where he no longer recognises either my Mum or me and his behaviour has become very challenging, especially at night, when he rampages around, trying to escape, trying to get in the loft, behaving in a destructive and out of control way, which cannot be challenged or stopped because he cannot understand anything that is said to him and he gets quite nasty if we try to intervene, for his own safety. Hard to believe as he is now very thin and frail but he is like a bull in a china shop.
The hospice at home nurse has now said that he is now a danger to himself and my Mum and we need to get him into a suitable care home. Care homes in this area cost around £1600 per week, which is surely an unthinkable and unaffordable sum of money for most people.
I have been frantically looking into this and as far as I can see, from looking at many, many websites, it is extremely difficult and probably impossible, to be accepted for this funding in cases where Dementia is the primary reason for needing to be admitted into a care home. Even the hospice nurse said that he would not meet the criteria for funding, even though he is at the end stages of Dementia, has zero capacity, he cannot make any sense when speaking, has no awareness or understanding of his own behaviour, his surroundings, how to care for himself, he needs help with personal care, dressing, preparing food and getting dressed and undressed and so on. He cannot, under any circumstances be left alone, even for a short time as anything could happen and now he has some kind of nocturnal psychosis on top of the relentless wandering around causing chaos.
I'm sorry if I haven't included any relevant information or if this is too long but I am at my wit's end after almost ten years of this and feeling very stressed.
Thank you for reading, if you have! I would be very grateful for any advice, insights or opinions.