My mother is law was assessed by social services a couple of weeks ago. They say she has capacity.
An assessment by her consultant states she has capacity to decide that she wants to live elsewhere but lacks the capacity to be able to put that in place.
She refuses any sort of care and wants to live alone (she currently lives with her husband).
She will not even look at the assisted living accommodation and the family won't be granted access to look around unless she is in agreement.
He cannot put the POA in place as she has been assessed as having capacity.
She spends her days wandering around town, visiting various shops and services telling people lies (obviously I know this is her condition, I'm just stating the facts as they present).
She is vulnerable. Her husband is not coping. She ideally needs to have someone with her at all times.
Her daughter sees her about once a month. I go when I can but I cannot become her carer.
It just seems like the bar is too high and that her situation will be taken out of her (and our) hands before the services agree to help.
Have other had experience of this (sorry I have not read all the threads on this board yet)?
Both my parents died quite young and this is my first experience of a degenerative illness.