My dad had been in a care home since December 21. He went in for respite after a hospital stay and never came out, the plan was to move him back home with carers, but hospital and respite deteriorated him so much that it was unsafe for him, he lasted 24 hours at home before we had to put him in a permanent care home, it was clear he would have harmed himself or someone else if left alone for a second.
A social worker deemed him to lack capacity in late Jan, he’s under dols.
While he was staying with me prior to that, sept-dec 2021, he finally realised that he wasn’t going to drive again, so he gave his car to dh in the December.
Not that we could afford to insure and run two cars, so it’s been sat in the garage ever since.
With everything that was going on with my dad (it’s been stressful to say the least), we didn’t legally sign the car log book over to dh until April.
We didn’t have the headspace, we were having a nightmare selling my dads home for the care fees, his bank were terrible sorting out the POA on his account, we had to go through complaints the lot, the company who owns the care home were hassling me on a weekly basis for their money as the sale was dragging on.
Anyway, the car has SORN and just sitting there ever since.
I need to sell it. It’s a constant reminder of everything that’s gone on, what’s been lost and we will never be able to afford to run it. And it’s just sat there rotting away.
It’s worth about 2k.
Everyone is giving me conflicting advice. It’s dh car. Log book in his name. So he can legally sell
it and keep the money.
But, my dads money will run out in 10 months.
Are Social services going to ask about his car? They go though bank statement for years back don’t they, to make sure that no assets have been disposed of - they will see he was running one, paying car insurance/petrol etc.
I’ve spoken to two solicitors, both told me conflicting things.
Dh is just going to sell it and we’ll keep the money in a separate account incase they want it. It’s worth about a week and a half of care home fees, for context.
Also, before his money runs out can I pre pay for a direct cremation from his bank account (I have POA)? The charge is 1.4k.
I won’t be able to pay for one when the time comes otherwise. My dad always told me that he had a funeral plan. I finally got the courage to open his “death box” a couple of months ago
and yes, he’s got his funeral planned to an T - only, he didn’t actually pay for it like he led me to believe. He obviously never thought he would have to go into a care home, this all happened within the space of 6 months . He planned what he wanted was on the basis that he thought he would die and leave me as the sole beneficiary with a house and all his savings, he never envisaged it would all go on care fees. So his plans to pay for it are basically, “use the savings in my current account.”
I can’t give him the funeral he wants, that would cost thousands, but I thought I could pre pay for the cheapest option, a direct cremation. That way, we would get his ashes back and could have a memorial.
Again, I’ve been told conflicting things on that.
Sorry if these are stupid questions, I’m not
coping with any of this.
I’ve spoken to solicitors who offer free half hours and say they are specialists this, I’ve spoken to age U.k. and the other charities everyone says to contact, but they tell me something different.
I tried asking the social worker who assed him these things and she just kept talking about “money grabbing families”. These thing are
important and causing me stress, I’d just like to know.