Living with my mother in law who has dementia

[MummyRR]

I've been married just over a year now and second trimester pregnant.
Living with DH, father in law and mother in law. MIL has dementia.
She's okay to me sometimes but other times very rude and says nasty and hurtful things.
Not long ago she told me to get out & leave the house, she makes comments about how I dress/my skin complexion, today she was comparing me to my sister in law about who has better hair and that mine looks greasy.
We once invited my husband's uncle and his family over to eat and she was saying my cooked food was "hopeless"
My appetite has increased since being pregnant and so she tells me that I eat too much and need to stop eating.
I have tried to ignore her but then she starts swearing at me.
I've broken down a few times to my husband who says that she doesn't mean it and it's just her illness. That I need to be strong and cope with it.
Truthfully, I have tried so many times but I am at the end of my tether now.
I want to get my own place, husband does not want to move out.
Has anybody been in a similar situation or can offer some advice?

You need to draw a line with your DH and tell him you can't live there any longer.
What is the reason DH wants to carry on living there?

He just is very close with his mum especially.
He pays the bills on the house now and wouldn't be able to afford it for 2.

That is so hard for you. Do you know what the plan is for the care she'll need as the disease progresses? Is the family expecting you to provide that care?

Dementia erases the filters that most of use.She's probably not doing it to hurt you but because she voiced her inner thoughts. Luckily all my MiL cards about is where her mum and dad are, she's in the later stage of Alzheimer's and has shouted at my grandson, who lives her, and I've never known her about at anyone before that.

caring for someone with dementia is hard, luckily DD is a carer with a dementia qualifications or I don't think I could cope on my own. Don't let them guilt you into caring for her, you need to want to do it.