My mum's funeral is next week. Dad (who was married to mum for 60 years) has advanced dementia. He lives at home with two full time (and lovely) carers. Me and my husband told him the news soon after mum's death and he seemed to understand, although he is largely non verbal now, as well as lacking in much facial expression. He responded to the news by his cheeks flushing, then shook my husband's hand and reached out to ruffle my hair.
His carers now report that he is asking where mum is. So they tell him.
My question is, will the funeral be too much for him? We've deliberately kept it small. But I'm worried.
On the hand if he doesn't attend perhaps the consequences will be awful?
In a quandary!