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MIL hates me

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bingandflop · 30/08/2021 22:35

Hi guys

Its a bit tricky with MIL right now. We have always got on well apart from once when I challenged her when we had a tiny disagreement when my daughter was 3, and she ignored me for 2 days (the rest of the holiday).

We got together as a family in July and as soon as she had 2 drinks she ignored me.

My FIL has confirmed she has early onset dementia (I unfortunately have suspected this in a while as she repeats herself a lot and says a lot of things that don't make sense). They do not live near us but we zoom often, it's the luck of the draw if she acknowledges me or not on the zoom.

Today they have come to visit, she was OK to start buy after about an hour started ignoring me and demanded to go back to their hotel. My kids were upset as they were making up a dance but she was adamant they had to leave right then and there and that it was because of me.

I am 100% sure I haven't done anything but I feel gutted because A) my kids are sad and B) I have bugger all confidence at the best of times and don't understand why someone would suddenly hate me.

They are supposed to be coming for the day tomorrow and I am shitting it - there is a chance my husband and fil will play golf and leave me with someone who hates me.

what should I do? Xx

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SunbathingDragon · 30/08/2021 22:39

How old are your children? I think you need to explain to them about dementia and the impact it has on someone so they will understand.

Ask your DH to stay. Remember, it’s unlikely your MIL dislikes you but probable that she is confused because she is in unfamiliar surroundings and any sort of change can exacerbate symptoms of dementia.

bingandflop · 30/08/2021 22:43

Thank you, they are 8 and 10. Husband probably won't stay. On hol I worried a lot when FIL and husband played golf. I think H would be annoyed if I said granny has dementia as he is in denial himself

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DominicRaabsTravelAgent · 31/08/2021 22:22

It's difficult when your adH is in denial but wasn't he there when your DFIL said that she has Dementia? What's he doing so far to support them?

DominicRaabsTravelAgent · 01/09/2021 22:50

How did it go on Tuesday for you all @bingandflop? Hope it wasn't too bad Thanks

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