I had a thread a while back about my in-laws moving nearby. Very helpful.
They moved & my Mil has settled well (surprisingly). She has some sort of dementia but has refused any treatment whatsoever.
Fil is looking after her but she is leaving her hair grow and I don't think she's physically very comfortable. But they don't really allow us to help or comment.
I was advised to step back until they had settled in. This was the right advice as they do not tolerate my rather more proactive attitude to getting help.
However, there's likely to be a family funeral in the near future. It's the other side of the country. Fil thinks Mil will want to go. He wants to go...
She got very confused a couple of years ago when they travelled to see family & she's far worse now. I know the answer is that she should not go but am I rightly worried? I struggle to judge what is appropriate as he's so sure it's all fine.