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My mum moved to a care home...

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harverina · 24/04/2021 21:59

Hi all,

My mum moved to a care home on Monday after being in hospital for 4 months. She has been quite tired some days - today she slept most of the day. She has eaten at meal times and was up walking this evening when I called, but slept most of the day.

She has vascular dementia. It’s pretty advanced in the sense that her short term memory is exceptionally poor but she is still mobile (limited due to a hip fracture), still continent, still able to hold a conversation etc.

In the past she would sleep a lot of the day if she’d had a busy or stressful day the day before, but hasn’t done this for a while because she’s been in hospital.

Is her sleepiness linked to the stress of the move? We can’t see her because of Covid - she is in quarantine for 14 days in her room with no visitors. The exception would be essential visits if she was distressed. But so far any distress seems to have been manageable. I’m just so anxious about her constantly - I’m desperate to see her and counting down the days.

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harverina · 24/04/2021 22:00

Apologies. She moved on Wednesday not Monday!

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BunnyRuddington · 24/04/2021 22:07

I’m desperate to see her and counting down the days.

I bet you are Thanks

If she normally does this then I think it's probably just the move that's affecting her although it's probably worth asking the staff how she was overnight. You, and they, probably don't want her asleep all day if she's going to be awake half the night.

BunnyRuddington · 27/04/2021 20:20

How is your DM now @harverina?

willowtree81 · 27/04/2021 20:29

This sounds so tough 😥 It could be exhaustion from the move and changes. I hope she settles well and that the time moves quickly till you can see her ThanksWine

willowtree81 · 27/04/2021 20:31

Also, would you be able to post her a letter or card or some photos? Maybe that way you could feel more in touch with her. Even if she can't write back.

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