Elderly Parent

[springmeadow]

Hi. I'm trying to help an elderly parent. I suspect he has dementia but we don't have a diagnosis yet.

I'm not very close to him but I am trying to do the right thing. At times I feel I just don't have the patience to deal with him. I feel like I am bellowing out commands sometimes for his own safety. It's not because I am annoyed with him it is because he doesn't take much in and I want him to be safe.

I don't think this is doing my well-being any good. I care about him but keep getting upset and annoyed with myself.

Hopefully there will be some professional help for him soon.

Just wondering how other people are coping?

Dementia is difficult to deal with when you have the most living of relationships, I sometimes think that if you're not close, the task of caring can be so much harder.

What's happening now? Has he given you POA? Has he been assessed by the GP and is he living alone and coping?

@JiltedJohnsJulie Thanks ... I feel better today. I was trying to keep him safe during Covid. It is so difficult.

He will be getting a diagnosis soon if he will go to the appointment. He has said no to POA so may have to get a solicitor involved.

I'm not sure you're going to be able to get him to understand the risks or adhere to them.

We have 2 parent who perfectly understand but choose to ignore most of the rules and one with Dementia is in a home now but was home fir the first 6 months last year. She simply could not understand the rules and it was making her very distressed.

Have you got him a [anyard and would he wear it?

He doesn't understand social distancing and the risks. What is the lanyard for?

The lanyard shows other people that he has a hidden disability and will hopefully understand why he's not following the rules regarding social distancing.

Has he had his vaccination yet? I think that may help you both a bit too