How to get parents with Alzheimer's to understand self isolation

[socksmcgraw]

I apologise for another CV thread but wondered if anybody has any tips on getting their parents with Alzheimer's/dementia to understand and aim to adhere to the new guidance.

My mum doesn't want to isolate so is just not wanting to take on board the issue and concerns. She just says "yes I am fine" then moves on to the next issue. It is extremely clear to me she is not going to stop getting a bus every day to go shopping. Is there a way I can enforce this? I do have POA. She was deemed to have overall capacity fairly recently but it was agreed she didn't have capcity for understanding her own condition and I would argue she doesn't have capacity to understand this either. Anyone got good advice? Is there a legal route to follow? Thanks

[helpfulperson]

I would go for the 'The Government says...….' there is little point in try to convince her why it is a good idea.

[socksmcgraw]

Yes @helpfulperson thank you I am trying to focus on authority figures. I have been trying to reason and maybe I just need to keep it simple and say you aren't allowed on the bus, to go out etc. I fear I have an impossible task on my hands though. I phoned Alzheimer's hotline here and they gave me the name of a legal firm to see if I have any options re invoking power of attorney here - no idea but worth a call!

[TheSandgroper]

How would she go if you said “Doctor says ...”. Is she one of those who treats the doctor as if he/she is God?

[CMOTDibbler]

My sympathy - my mum who doesn't have capacity is currently throwing a complete toddler like tantrum as her very fixed routine is disrupted. I'm not sure how long dad will cope with all this as his anxiety is sky high and being shut in the house with her 24/7 isn't going to help

[Knotaknitter]

I have just had another conversation with mum where she mentions popping out to the library. I am considering an official looking printed poster for inside the front door, possibly echoing the war time "Is your journey really necessary?" The sooner she gets a letter from someone official telling her to stay home the better - at least then I can stick it to the door. She lives in her own little bubble, doesn't watch the news and really has no idea what's going on in the outside world.

[socksmcgraw]

Thanks for your replies, sorry I didn't reply earlier. I like the poster idea! I have since spoken to a couple of dementia charities and her GP. The depressing result is that really I can't do much other than continuing to reason with her. She isn't at the point where I can force her to do anything according to the GP but he also acknowledges people with Alzheimer's do lack insight. So tricky. He said that unfortunately there has to be an acceptance on my past that unless she changes i will have to accept a certain degree of risk here I think she will only change when either all her friends start complying or the government enforce it. So frustrating and highly anxiety provoking!!