Getting Mum to agree to help in the home.

[Jungfraujoch]

Dad is near breaking point - he now does the majority of the cleaning, cooks all dinners, shopping etc. Plus taking the daily verbal abuse he gets from Mum.

Whenever I mention having someone to help with housework and/or a companion so Dad can get out for a break she gets hysterical and very distressed - crying and shouting.

I just don’t know what to do - I’m worried for Dad.

How worse would it be if you just arranged it? She's already shouting and screaming, so I'd just do it, ask the persons name and arrange jobs before they come. Ask dad to play it like it always happens

Your mum may take advice/suggestions better from doctor or district nurse. Going down the what happens if your husband gets ill route. Hope it gets sorted out.

Thank you both for your thoughts. The CMH nurse is visiting them again this week so I’ve asked if perhaps she can subtly mention some help in the home with the hope that Mum may be more willing! Fingers crossed.