Support thread **New** let’s get together and feel all right... For anyone with a relative suffering

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Rant, unload, do what you need to do here...

Can only quote the last thread really...

“Welcome to the thread no one wants to be on, but we are all travelling with our loved ones along their journey with dementia.”

I’m sitting with my DF in his last hours after an 8 year journey with dementia. He is sedated so peaceful. It is just so sad.

I think it depends on which type of dementia and the stage they’re at. My parents both have dementia and you can see the different diseases playing out distinctly.

Mum is 12 years into Alzheimer’s and she has no short term memory at all but deep memories are still there. She still knows us and can talk coherently about family stuff from long ago. She doesn’t know day/time/place. For her, a card that says familiar names would go down well.

Dad has vascular dementia and I haven’t been sure he recognises us for a couple of years. He’s smiley and lovely to everyone but not convinced he knows anyone really. For him, a card would have no meaning.

Thank you Along. She has Alzheimer's so has her long term memory. My daughters are only 2 though, and born since she's been ill so I don't know if they feature in her memories at all. She doesn't say more than a couple of words now which makes visits hard.

I went with no 'to' and just put 'happy Easter love from dd1 and dd2'

That's interesting about the difference in the type of dementia. I hadn't realised it could be so different.

So sorry to hear you're going through it twice at the same time, that must be really tough.

First of all, hello to everybody else on the thread and thank you OP for starting it.
I got a call last night to say Dad has been rushed into hospital with pneumonia for the third time in a week, DBro had managed this one and emailed to ask that I call, however I didn't because I couldn't face it so will call tomorrow. I'm feeling really guilty about it now because I know I should have phoned the hospital but I couldn't help thinking I'd be told he had died.