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Dementia & Alzheimer's

Dad being refused place in a home

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Sunnyday1203 · 21/06/2018 12:02

My dad is currently in hospital, have another thread running about his smoking. Basically hospital wants to discharge him but we are struggling to find a place for him. The problem is not just smoking but dad refuses any help with personal care, he is incontinent, refuses to be washed, change his clothes, clean teeth in short he reeks. I have tried to reason but to no avail, latest care home manager has refused a place as say they cannot meet his needs. Nurses will not clean him as he refuses, I am getting worried that if this carries on he will be commited to mental institute. Does anyone have any suggestions where to go from here?

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Bombardier25966 · 21/06/2018 12:16

If things are as bad as you describe, a mental health unit might be appropriate. That's nothing to be scared of, it would mean he gets the specialist help that he needs.

I work with a care home that accepts dementia patients, and his personal care needs would be too high for them. The nursing staff have to ensure his minimum personal care needs are fulfilled, and if he is so resistant they would not be able to do so in the limited time they have.

I hope you get something sorted.

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Sunnyday1203 · 21/06/2018 12:21

Thank Bom we did find one place but it was very scary place, very disturbed people screaming and shouting. My dad is a quiet man and not aggressive, I felt he would struggle. I totally understand why the home rejected him, just not sure where to go from here.

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HeGotManFlu · 22/06/2018 12:36

Has he had a capacity assessment, have they asked him why he doesn't want help with personal care. Why does he need a carehome, would he be able to manage in supported housing, has he seen the mental health team. Sorry to ask so many questions.

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chrissie28 · 22/06/2018 23:44

I am wondering why he is refusing help with personal care - is there anything in his background that might make him afraid? Often resistance is triggered by fear? You might want to join our group on facebook - people have had many different experiences which you might find helpful www.facebook.com/groups/dementiaconnection/ Personally I don't think he should be sectioned for resistance - a good care home will be able to help him through this. whereabouts are living - have you had a look at the CQC reports for homes in your area?

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