My poor Mum has had a terrible few years. She had a suspected tia, then was diagnosed with diverticulitis, then had emergency surgery after a perforated bowel, requiring a temporary colostomy bag. She didn't react well to the surgery mentally (we thought it was a reaction to the GA) and three years down the road still has moments of forgetfulness and confusion which seems to be getting worse.
Unsurprisingly, she's not happy discussing any of this with either my Dad or anyone else, and now has a constant feeling of needing the loo, which is really debilitating for her, she's up constantly in the night and my Dad is so worried about her. She's had trips to a&e when she thinks she's had a blockage. Sometimes I think that she's maybe been given a cancer diagnosis but won't tell us.
My question is what, as someone who lives 500 miles away, can I do to help my Mum get listened to, or treated? Anytime she visits her GP she just seems to be dismissed. My Mum is 74. I'm obviously also concerned about the effect all of this is having on my Dad. he's worried sick and Mum doesn't know how that he's told me about her being up so much in the night etc. I just don't know what I can do.