My mum is 82, I am an only child and a single parent. She is not diagnosed because she managed to discharge herself - not sure how. But is clear she had dementia (the investigations were for vascular dementia) and that for whatever reason, any memory she has of me is gone. She is coping well at home, has friends etc and we visit every week but I have walked away today because she got annoyed with me that I tried to make it clear who I am (last week I got accused of key stealing but it was clear she was accusing the woman who had visited her, not me although of course I was the visitor). She got huffy, refused to talk to me and then said she wouldn't be attending the party she had given me money for. I have no idea of what that's about but is probably the pantomime we will be going to at Xmas. I bought the tickets but she insists on paying her way.
I have lost my mum. The one person who was on my side (ex husband is very difficult) and I now feel I can't even visit because of accusations and anger she has towards me. I am a total bitch because I keep wishing her dead because I just don't know how to cope with this (I gave up my full time teaching job and went on supply to be more available to her but she rejects me as as far as she's concerned, I am not her daughter) and there is really no help or support.
We didn't get a Power of Attorney done because she wouldn't and now we are clearly need it. I am assuming no solicitor will touch it now.
I know it's not her fault. But nor is it mine. I just feel so alone.