Paranoia / Hallucinations

[caz1010]

posted back in the summer about my nana.

Nana is now in a care home for dementia patients.

Physically she is fine (very bloody well for 86 )

She seemed really settled and happy in the home but the last few weeks has started saying very strange things.

1. The carers refuse to bath her.
2. The carers run up and down the corridors at night shouting and laughing
3. She can't afford to live in the home so will be moving out.
4. The family next door shout messages to her

none of these things are true as far as I know. The finances are in place for her care to continue to the end. There is no family next door
The bathing and night time shenanigans are obviously denied by the home.

I don't know if these things are part of nanas illness. It seems after a lifetime looking after everyone else she has the idea the world is against her. She won't talk in her room. She says to whisper as "they" are listening. when asked who they are she just looks at me like I'm stupid

I don't know why I'm posting. I know there is no magic wand that will make her better. I'm just thinking out loud I suppose.

I want her to be happy but it's like she wants to cause worries.

Sounds like my MIL (88) - dementia manifests itself in many strange ways including paranoia and hallucinations, though it is also worth getting the home to check for urinary track infections as UTIs often cause hallucinations and very odd behaviour

MIL is also convinced "they" listen at doors and believes that she has nowhere to sleep that night, and has even said 'they are sleeping in my bed' though there was never anyone there. She also complained that other residents were using her ensuite bathroom, though the home said that was not the case.

You are not alone is feeling like that. Dementia is very sad

tract even, not track!

'They' are monitoring my Mother's phone, the Nursing Home staff pour acid over her legs, they don't want her to leave so they mess up the care of her legs, the Consultant is corrupt and has been paid off and the Head of Care doesn't like her because her fancy man takes more interest in Mum.

Oh yes and the heating keeps breaking and the drains smell.

Agree about checking for UTI though just in case.

Sorry, it sucks doesn't it

Your nana will probably go through many different phases.with her dementia. If the things she talks about are distressing her then you can ask the home to get a GP appointment. He could provide some thing to make her less anxious.

I am sure you are aware that quite often the things the elderly say are more distressing for the relatives than for the person themselves.

Don't be afraid to speak up though on your Nana's behalf if you are concerned.

My mum regularly tells me...

• someone else sleeps in her bed so she sleeps on the floor in the lounge
• there was a huge party last night where everyone was drinking wine and beer
• the care home 'owner' doesn't like her and there is an 'atmosphere'. (She is talking about a man, while all the senior management are women).
• usual concerns about money, so she says that she has to move out and worries that she hasn't paid for food or health care

It is, as other have said, shit.