Never met your child?

[MollyPapa]

Hello all

I have a daughter who is a little over 16 months old and I have never met as she was born in continental Europe in extremely difficult and unique circumstances. For a variey for reasons it hasn't been possible for me to visit her, and her mother has made no attempt to inform me, or arrange contact, during her visits to the UK.

I have a few photographs and a great deal of concerns.

Luckily, I have an older son from another relationship, and can experience all the ups and downs of being a Dad - but it always seems tainted somehow... everything he achieves, every little milestone, I know I am missing those same things with my daughter.

I keep photos for her and a diary, even have a little garden for her, an d try and look to a better time in the future...

Just wondered if anyone here was in any thing like a similar situation, or anything else I can do so that one day she knows that not a day passes when I don't think about her; not a day passes when I don't worry about her, and that she is very much loved, cared for and wanted.

Sorry if that's a bit sentimental

You sound as though you are very caring, which is lovely - but I don't understand how you know your DD and her mum have been in the UK if you have had no contact? If you know through other family members, can you not get them to arrange for you to be around when your DD is?

Hello thumbwitch

There is contact between the authorities, myself and at times the mother - they are prepared to say she has visited the UK, but I have not notice of visits and no attempt is made to arrange contact with my daugter. In effect, I am told after they have been.

Does that clarify things?

that is very sad for you then.

Keeping a Thoughts of Molly book might be nice - you know, if you see something and think "oh Molly would love that", write it in the book when you get home, with a picture. Then whenever you do get to meet her, she will have a record of the amount of thinking about her you did.

I hope things change for you.

thumbwitch that is a wonderful idea

it will mean so much to her when she is bigger

Thanks Thumbwitch

I keep a scrapbook which is the same sort of thing - photos, news, odd stuff and I'm already on volumer 3 of her journal (maybe I need bigger notebooks S)

MarlaSinger. Yes - why do you ask?