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adadwithnoname · 01/05/2009 12:14

this really is men only, because it's a bit crude, frankly.

I'm 40, and i've never been on the receiving end of any kind of oral... attention.

For reasons i shan't bore you with, it's also never going to happen.

And i don't feel like i'm missing anything, i don't feel like a freak, or the odd one out, though i've always been aware that in groups of male friends i couldn't really admit to it, as beer glasses would be dropped, and mouths would hang open in disbeleif.

What's the big deal? I mean so what? Why is it considered a taboo NOT to have... you know?

sensible grown up answers would be great - i'm just fascinated by the fascination, if you see what i mean.

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beardydad · 01/05/2009 13:20

There's a huge gulf between what it's like in dirty films (goes on for hours and hours) and RL where it's in and then the next you're pulling them away to stop a facial disaster.
It's just the odd tooth too, surely?
And yes much like the finger up the bum thread, there's some things you don't talk about with your DW.

PadDad · 01/05/2009 13:50

I really don't think it's a taboo, mate. Just unusual not to have experienced it because that act is so usual.

PMSL at "this really is men only, because it's a bit crude, frankly."

You'll be lucky to get to the end of a Friday without a coven of women dying to opine on a "crude" thread.

They're already lurking. Gathering...

dumbblonde · 01/05/2009 14:02

Whats all this!??!!!

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 01/05/2009 14:05

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Poppity · 01/05/2009 14:09

Hey PadDad....Lurker no1 here
Obviously can't really give an opinion as to what you're missing, but my DH says poor guy.....

Poppity · 01/05/2009 14:10

haha, didn't type quick enough, hello girls!

SouthernLights · 01/05/2009 14:19

I've had a couple of partners (including DH) who weren't overly keen on it, TBH - occasionally when they were in the right mood, but DH particularly is not really a "sit-back-and-enjoy-it" kind of guy. So I don't think it is freakish to feel that you can live without it.

Beardydad - I'm quite concerned as to your "tooth" reference - there shouldn't be ANY tooth involvement if you're doing it right! Unless I've misjudged the whole point of the thread and adadwithnoname was referring to some fringe vampire practice I'm not familiar with...

Also "there's some things you don't talk about with your DW" - I know not all couples do that "let's tell each other everything" but I would say frank discussions on what you both fancy in bed were a crucial part of intimacy - or am I wrong?

beardydad · 01/05/2009 14:29

It just feels like 'omm omm omm OW'
Maybe one day we'll have The Chat...

AustinPowers · 01/05/2009 21:54

Read this earlier - I wonder if there are any ladies online at the moment who could give adadwithnoname some advice?

SpringySponge · 01/05/2009 21:57

I'm impressed at how quiet this thread is, all things considered. It obviously needed a raunchier title to pull in the usual Friday night filthmeisters.

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adadwithnoname · 01/05/2009 22:03

what sort of "advice" do i need?

confused

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AustinPowers · 01/05/2009 22:14

sorry adad, why confused? You said "What's the big deal? I mean so what? Why is it considered a taboo NOT to have... you know?

sensible grown up answers would be great - i'm just fascinated by the fascination, if you see what i mean. "

Perhaps "advice" is the wrong word, I apologise. Let me rephrase....

I wonder if there are any ladies online at the moment you could give adadwithnoname some insight?

southeastastra · 01/05/2009 22:17

he wouldn't have posted on dadsnet if he wanted us to come wading in with theories would he

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adadwithnoname · 01/05/2009 22:32

oh hell, i've started confusion and upset, which i didn't mean to do.

Sorry Austin, i thought that you thought i was saying "hey, how do i get a blow job?", which i wasn't. if i was that desperate i'd pay for it, or something. No, i think i was looking for some sort of affirmation, hoping someone else would say "no, me neither, it's all just macho bullshit".

And i did it in this section not because i would eschew female opinions, but in part it's not relevant - women can't not have them, in the exact same sense, and also to ask in the "mums" bit (i.e. anywhere else) would be a bit pervy.

I have MUCH bigger problems with the physical side of my relationship, and just sort of wanted to dissasociate the two, after a few people on another thread, including a woman, sort of reacted with surprise to my admission when it came out somewhat incidentally.

sorry for any confusion or upset

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Phoenix4725 · 02/05/2009 08:28

case of coming down to what you enjoy each to their own, and thing is you can not say you dont like if never tried it

ps if teeth are involved someone not getting it right and btw its not cheating if you dont catch us spitting

ABetaDad · 02/05/2009 09:53

adadwithnoname - you are not being crude.

Not all men like it including me as I explained on a recent Recent Thread

I wondered if I was the only bloke on the planet who didn't. A kind female poster said I wasn't. Also there is a lot of other interesting views from women on that thread - both for and against. There was a lot more explicit discussion there too.

I do sometimes wonder why more men do not join in those threads more. I guess we just do not feel comfortable. TBH I feel a bit of freak joining in threads where there are just (or mainly) female MNetters.

BarcodeZebra · 03/05/2009 21:50

I'm with BetaDad. Been on the receiving end many, many times and it is - for me at least - a HUGELY dull experience.

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