Have posted this in relationships but wanted to see what other men thought - weight gain post DCs..

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I know I've put on weight post DS...I was a curvy 10st pre DS

I was constantly hungry during pregnancy and put on 4st. Have lost two stone of that (DS is nearly three) but still have the post baby tum, stretch marks and a c section scar from an em cs. I am hour glass with it and go in and out in all the right places, so do look womanly, but am definately padded!

I know DH doesn't find me as phyiscally attractive as pre DS...hell I don't find me as attractive but what I find hard to cope with, is that he is obvious in his dislike of the extra weight

This change in body shape is due to becoming a mother...I don't have the energy most nights to do work out DVDs..I'm too busy working part time and I do all the cooking, cleaning, menu planning and shopping..in short, I'm putting my family first before myself really

Do men see that women are putting their energies into the home rather than themselves and act accordingly, or do they just think blimey luv, time to shift the baby weight??

Watching this thread with interest, I would like to know if you started a new relationship with someone, would the fact that they had stretch marks, caesarean scar and a tum put you off? Just wondered if you could cope with it in a DW/DP who had given birth to your own children, would it be offputting in a new partner?

will watch this with interest for the male point of view. I am pregnant with number 4, 16 weeks. So i am just starting to show but to most people they would probably just think i had put a bit of weight on.

dh thinks i am gorgeous and sexy with a bit of extra weight, tits and ass stage he calls it. So there you go.

OMG PJC I could have written this exact same post apart from slightly less weight gain (only slightly) and no cs (but scar from previous op).

Actually my tum's much slimmer now as I do loads of sit-ups every night, and plan to run (only plan, not much actual running done yet).

My DH has only ever made positive noises when I've lost weight; I know that he'd find me more attractive if I lost another stone (am currently 11st).

So like all the other women on this thread (where are the dads??) I'm watching this thread with interest!

I don't think there is such a thing as a single male point of view. Strangely enough we blokes are all individuals (is that statment heresy on MN?) and each will react in different ways.

It will depend on all sorts of different factors, what was your relationship based on pre-DS, why did he first find you attractive, is he aware of how much you do around the home, how much does he do around the home to spare up your time, and I'm sure that others could add to this list far better than I can.

I am afraid that is probably not the answer you were after, but thats how I see it.

Dasinsteadofmum, the op knows everyone will have different opinions, that's why she is posting on a forum. What is YOUR opinion?

Do you find extra weight a turn off?

No she was still the same woman I married, I think she struggled more with her self image than I did with my image of her.

"we blokes are all individuals"

Yes, okay maybe we're being a teensy bit unrealistic by expecting the few dads on MN to sum up the views of all men! But it's still interesting to know. Who else do we turn to? Our husbands???

being a bit rounder n softer is post birth is nice and i (a bit wiered maybe) find strechmarks a bit of a turn on but cant comment on the scar as the only person i know with one wont so me