My dh told me 2 months ago that he doesnt love me any more and now he wants to leave.{sad} This came out of the blue as far as I was concerned. We've been married 20 yrs and have 3 kids. There have been no big issues as far as I know - we are comfortable financially, work is going well - he runs his own business which is doing well despite the recession. The kids are getting older, the youngest is 7, so at least we are getting a nights sleep which wasnt the case for nearly a decade. I was looking forward to doing more things as couple now the kids are becoming more independent.
He says there is no one else - for what it's worth I believe him. He's adamant that our relationship can't be repaired. The only way he can be happy is to leave me. He's devoted to the kids and seems to think if we separate amicably they will be alright!!
He's started going out most nights (which he didn't do even when he was young). He won't talk to famly or friends he has known for years. He says he is talkng to "people" and they say he has a right to be happy.(?).
For all his bravado I think he has low self esteem. At other times he would admit he finds it hard to accept praise. He's very good at his job but is suspicious of compliments.
He is in his late 40's. Is this a mid life crisis? Am I kidding myself that we can get through this? None of the reasons he's given are dealbreakers as far as I am concerned? I love him and want to make him happy. But how can I help him if he doesn't want my help?
I would really like to know what you men and especially dads think?